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Dear Friend,
If your wife is not talking to you, if she’s “done,” or if you feel like you’re on the path to separation...
…I’d like to help.
Inside the book on page 170, I’ll give you blueprints for conversations that can reopen communication with your wife.
But before you start reopening communication, we need to talk about how you got to where you are now.
You’ve likely already asked yourself…
“How is this part of God’s plan for me?”
How can you make sense of the pain that comes when she no longer wants to speak about, let alone fix, what has driven you apart?
And how can you possibly reopen communication and start talking again?
– Jeremiah 29:11
The reality is that God allowed you to be in this situation for a reason.
Today, I’d like to help you discover how the state of your relationship fits into His plan for your life, because the only path forward is through Him.
feels the way she does
Examples of messages you can send
And much, much more.
This is all part of my latest book, S.O.S. Reconnect.
Before I share more details about the book and resources I’m about to give you, let me explain who I am, how I can help, and what I’ll ask you to do in the book.
I’ve been helping husbands reopen communication with their wives for over a decade.
Since 2010, I’ve been blessed to be able to help thousands of men go from being absolutely broken to having new lives filled with hope, purpose, significance, and happiness.
I understand the pain you’re in right now because I’ve been there.
After 14 years of marriage, my wife told me she’d had enough of my selfishness, “workaholic” tendencies, and controlling ways. She told me she didn’t love me any more and filed for divorce.
She no longer loved, trusted, or respected me.
Suddenly, my family was ripped apart right in front of me. I felt like a complete failure as a husband and as a man.
I had no idea what to say or what to do to change it. Thankfully, I turned to God for answers. And I got my life back!
Today, I’d like to invite you to do the same.
I know this is painful, but you have an opportunity to take an honest look at yourself.
An opportunity to evaluate yourself and change.
If you want to reconnect with your wife, you cannot get around this.
There is a reason your wife is “done.”
And, right now, there is little you can do to change her mind until you change.
In the book on page 51, I’m going to share with you proven methods you can use to reopen communication with your wife and get her talking again…
…but these methods are unlikely to work unless you change.
I’m going to ask you to stop trying to change her heart and her mind.
Stop trying to fix things. It isn’t going to work.
2 Corinthians 4:8-10 tells us: “We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed.”
Even though it feels like you are up against an impossible challenge, helpless in your journey and unable to control anything…
…you need to know that you were meant to overcome and become an agent of change.
This means showing up radically in your relationships, showing up for the Lord, and showing up for yourself.
You may feel completely numb. Maybe you feel hopeless. Maybe you feel anxious. No matter where you are on this journey, I’d like to come alongside you and offer you support.
I’d like to help you STOP what is driving her away, OPEN communication, and SURROUND yourself with the support and accountability you’ll need during the reconnection process.
Here’s how this will work…
I’m going to ask you to recognize the difference between how men and women approach relationship issues and why trying to “fix” your relationship is futile.
You cannot change her heart, but God can.
Because changing her heart and mind is out of your control, I’m about to show you how to analyze your behaviors and your actions.
You’ll take an inventory and open yourself to God’s plan for your life and your marriage.
This can only happen when you STOP, give your wife space, step back, and focus on who you are.
You’ll discover new ways of communicating and listening that show her that you can provide the safety, security, and spiritual leadership you both need (and your family needs).
She’ll be able to feel emotionally safe and secure and begin to understand how you are changing.
And you’ll discover a new way of communicating with your wife that allows her to see how to move forward with you.
Finally, it is essential to SURROUND yourself with the proper support.
Change doesn’t happen overnight, and you’ll need to frequently confront hardship and temptation.
We NEED support, encouragement, and accountability through a support system I’ll show you how to develop.
Friends and family alone are NOT a support system.
Many men who rely only on friends and family for support end up giving in to the temptations like slandering their wives or gossiping about their marriage. I urge you not to give into this temptation.
Instead, I’ll show you how to build a network of support and accountability that will help you change for good.
Your wife will notice and she’ll be more likely to see that your improvements are permanent.
S.O.S. Reconnect begins when you STOP the type of communication that is pushing her away.
I’m going to ask you to recognize the difference between how men and women approach relationship issues and why trying to “fix” your relationship is futile.
You cannot change her heart, but God can.
Because changing her heart and mind is out of your control, I’m about to show you how to analyze your behaviors and your actions.
You’ll take an inventory and open yourself to God’s plan for your life and your marriage.
This can only happen when you STOP, give your wife space, step back, and focus on who you are.
Next, you’ll discover how to OPEN communication, lean into your own self-development process, and reveal to her new and attractive behaviors which will become habits for you.
You’ll discover new ways of communicating and listening that show her that you can provide the safety, security, and spiritual leadership you both need (and your family needs).
She’ll be able to feel emotionally safe and secure and begin to understand how you are changing.
And you’ll discover a new way of communicating with your wife that allows her to see how to move forward with you.
Finally, it is essential to SURROUND yourself with the proper support.
Change doesn’t happen overnight, and you’ll need to frequently confront hardship and temptation.
We NEED support, encouragement, and accountability through a support system I’ll show you how to develop.
Friends and family are NOT a support system.
Many men who rely on friends and family for support end up giving in to the temptations like slandering their wives or gossiping about their marriage. I urge you not to give into this temptation.
Instead, I’ll show you how to build a network of support and accountability that will help you change for good.
Your wife will notice and she’ll be more likely to see that your improvements are permanent.
Lesson #1: The #1 reason you shouldn’t deny your feelings, and how to ease the burden of pain, grief, and confusion so that you can take purposeful action and start reconnecting with your wife.
Lesson #2: How to avoid the “validation mistake” that leaves most men feeling blindsided by unmet expectations (even if you become the best version of yourself possible, this mistake can turn your wife further away).
Lesson #3: Giving up control so she can feel safe. Have you noticed that the moment your wife senses that you’re trying to “control things” is when everything stops working? Discover how to give up control so your reconnection can feel natural.
Lesson #4: Does it seem like talking to friends and family about your separation sometimes makes matters worse? Learn how to have these conversations while still keeping things uncomplicated.
Lesson #5: Men in Relationships vs. Women in Relationships - Gain a better understanding of her thought process and the steps she’ll follow before she’ll ever put energy into healing the relationship.
Lesson #6: Why you should STOP trying to “fix things” and start focusing on emotional connection instead (focusing on a “fix” works in almost every other situation we’ll find ourselves in…but not here).
Lesson #7: 5 Reasons Most “Reconnection Tactics” Don’t Work - A lot of husbands end up watching some YouTube videos on the "tricks" that get her back. Let me show you why most of these don’t work.
Lesson #8: Why do your efforts to fix things look "backwards" to her? If your suggestions for therapy, counseling, working on the marriage, or even working on yourself constantly backfire, go to page 16 and see why.
Lesson #9: How to determine your first steps - Every relationship is different and everyone will be at a different stage of the reconnection process. Complete the self-assessment in chapter one to discover where (and how) to start.
Lesson #10: Learn how to flip your emotions so that you can use them to your advantage, letting your discomfort, pain, and grief motivate you to transform you and your relationship.
Lesson #11: Do you know about the hidden limits you’ve placed on yourself? Complete this honest self-reflection so that you can start the first step toward removing the limits that can cause relationship gaps to develop.
Lesson #12: Your new framework for relationship problem solving. Solving every problem you face just got easier now that you can turn to this 4-step framework for answers.
Lesson #13: “What once was” is never going to work. Think back to the best times you’ve ever had in your relationship and realize: Talking about those moments will not heal your relationship. This is what to do instead (chapter 3).
Lesson #14: Is uncertainty the reason why she left? Take a moment in chapter 3 to examine the past and better see your marriage from your wife’s perspective.
Lesson #15: Where to reach out for help and support - Working on yourself is practically impossible to do alone. Here’s how (and where) to reach out for help and support outside of your friends and family.
Lesson #16: How to give her space without ignoring her - I’ll share how to give her the “gift of space” she wants, without ignoring her entirely so that she’ll be ready to re-open true communication and start working on your relationship when it’s time.
Lesson #17: The 5 Steps of Reconnection - Most guys try to skip right to reconciliation (aka: “fixing things”) instead of reconnecting first. Follow these 5 steps before “fixing” the relationship so she can feel safe and secure.
Lesson #18: Where she is emotionally right now, and the best way to respond to her emotions so that you can keep communication open and work toward resolving conflicts.
Lesson #19: Clear communication IS NOT ENOUGH. Lack of communication is not the reason why relationships fail, it’s actually more about the emotional connection you’ll read about in chapter 4.
Lesson #20: Three Step Formula for the “Speaking Stage” - If you’re not at the speaking stage yet, save this for when you are. It’s a formula for when you have interactions with your spouse that will reopen connection (not just communication).
Lesson #21: “A cord of three strands is not easily broken.” - Ecclesiastes 4:12. As you start to reconnect with your wife, you’re going to feel a temptation to isolate yourself. See why you’ll want to avoid this temptation and where you can get support so you don’t break.
Lesson #22: Uncover how to use your differences to your advantage and make them a beautiful foundation for your marriage. This is how you can embrace the unique design that God has used in the creation of both men and women.
Lesson #23: Biblical Accountability - God does not call you to gossip about your marriage, slander your spouse, or speak against her, but he does call you to welcome support, feedback, and accountability in these ways (chapter 4).
Lesson #24: Intentional vs. Habitual Communication - Do you know the difference? If you’ve found that you often speak without giving your words a second thought, it’s time to slow down and read chapter 5.
Lesson #25: Five ways to apologize that she can accept, and how to use each apology formula to reconnect and strengthen your relationship.
Lesson #26: Don’t just have a conversation, discover how to communicate so that your wife feels heard (and so you actually hear her) by following the 3 steps of communication revealed in chapter 5.
Lesson #27: The #1 Mistake that RUINS Your Ability to Reconnect - If you’re doing this, you might be giving up your ability to reconnect.
Lesson #28: Two guided assessments you can use to gauge your progress so you’ll know when it is time to start reconnecting. Follow these assessments and they’ll show you exactly what to do next.
Lesson #29: Building “You 2.0” - Making a habit of continuously working on yourself is one of the most vital and necessary things that you can do for yourself and your marriage. Here’s how to start (chapter 6).
Lesson #30: The 5 Focuses of Personal Development, when and where to use each, and guidelines to personal growth that allow you to become a better man without losing sight of who you are.
Lesson #31: Why you should take the time to complete a “moral inventory” and how to allow God to reveal to you how others have impacted you, and how you have impacted others (along with the lessons He has left for you to learn from).
Lesson #32: The 5 Columns of Moral Inventory - This exercise can be difficult, but with these 5 columns, you’ll be able to complete it and begin to resolve the roadblocks that hold back your marriage and your relationships.
Lesson #33: “Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord.” - Lamentations 3:40 - God has invited you to take an honest look at yourself. It might be difficult, but the exercise in chapter 6 is designed to make this reflection easier to face.
Lesson #34: Try This 5-Minute Bible Exercise & Meditation - When you pray, you can talk to God. When you meditate, you give God a chance to talk to you. And it can change your life.
Lesson #35: Here’s how to understand and use the 5 Love Languages to strengthen your marriage and use them as the background elements in every type of relationship you have.
Lesson #36: The First 2 Assignments That Will Transform Your Marriage - In Chapter 8, I’ll give you your first two tasks toward reconnection. Don’t skip these assignments!
Lesson #37: How to pray in alignment with God’s will (and not with your motivations) so that you can better request and listen to His plans for your life.
Lesson #38: “Reconnexting:” How to Use Very Specific Text Messages to Reconnect - You’ll discover what to say, how to say it, and why this method is NOT “texting” the way most people do (BE CAREFUL).
Lesson #39: The 4 Components of Reconnexting Texts: What to say, where to get ideas for what to say, how to use each, the top mistakes to avoid, and much more.
Lesson #40: You’ll likely get a response from your texts using this method (even if she’s “DONE”), but you need to know: Not all responses are an invitation for more conversation. I’ll show you what is.
Lesson #41: Automatically Find What to Say - I’ll show you how to set up an automated process for generating text conversation starters. You’ll think hard on what to talk about just one time, then this automation will give you ideas for what to say.
Lesson #42: Your Reconnexting Schedule - How often to communicate, setting your text schedule, and determining the boundaries you’ll set to stay emotionally secure during the reconnecting process.
Lesson #43: Grace + Truth + Grace is a framework for communication that can help her feel secure enough with your communication to start meeting in person again.
Lesson #44: Would you like to stop "wasting your pain"? Instead of putting aside all the hurt and damage you feel, I’ll show you how you can use your pain to guide you through the healing process.
Lesson #45: Building a team for lasting change - Being separated from your partner can be isolating and lonely, making working on yourself difficult. I’ll share how you can build a support team that can help you fulfill God’s plan for your marriage and your life.
As part of S.O.S.Reconnect, I’ll introduce you to a concept called “Reconnexting.”
This process uses text messaging to reopen communication with your wife.
Sometimes, it’s difficult to come up with ideas for what to talk about. It’s hard to determine what she’s likely to respond to.
That’s why I’m including this bonus: Reconnexting Secret Weapon. Inside, I’ll show you how to use technology to come up with conversation ideas for you so that you can start your reconnection with less stress.
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“We went from painfully disconnected to reconnected and doing better than ever, in just 8 weeks! I can’t thank Randy enough!”
- Nathan M.
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